You don’t have to be a mental health professional to help someone who is feeling suicidal; you just need to be able to listen. Asking directly about suicide is the right thing to do if you are worried about someone.

Many people fear talking directly about suicide in case they “give the person the idea”, but there is no evidence that talking about suicide can be harmful – quite the opposite in fact. For many people it can be huge relief to be asked the question in a direct way.

It is a myth that people who talk about suicide are unlikely to go through with the act. Anyone who talks or writes about taking their own life should be taken seriously. Never assume that a person who has spoken about suicidal thoughts before and not acted on those thoughts won’t do so this time.

Suicide is a can be a stigmatised subject, language is important i.e. ensuring we don't say things like 'commit' suicide

Be alert and aware

Not everyone who thinks about suicide will tell someone and there are some people who give no indication at all of their intention. However, there are warning signs that we can all look out for. These include, if a person is:

  • Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide. 
  • Actively looking for ways to kill themselves. 
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or of having no reason to live. 
  • Talking about being a burden to others. 
  • Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain. 
  • Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
  • Suddenly very much ‘recovered’ after a period of depression. 
  • Visiting or calling people unexpectedly to say goodbye either directly or indirectly. 
  • Making arrangements; setting their affairs in order. 
  • Giving things away, such as prized possession

The best way to help is to ask questions. That way you leave the other person in control. By asking questions, the person you are talking with finds his or her own answers.

Ask how this person is feeling?

  • Often people want to talk, but wait until someone asks how they are. Try asking open questions, like 'What happened about...', 'Tell me about...', 'How do you feel about...' 
  • Repeat back what they say to show you understand, and ask more questions. 
  • Focus on feelings instead of trying to solve the problem - it can be of more help and shows you care. 
  • Respect what they tell you. Sometimes it's easy to want to try and fix a person's problems, or give them advice. Let them make their own decisions.
  • Be aware of verbal or physical cues of anger and/or emotional distress

Ask open questions like - When did you realise?

Where did that happen?

How did that feel?

 

If someone has been feeling low for some time it is probably a good idea that they get some support, whether it is through talking to someone like a counsellor or getting some practical help.

Useful questions you might ask them include:

Have you talked to anyone else about this?

Is there anything you did that helped you when you had felt this way before?

focus on coping mechanisms and protective factors

Would you like to get some help?

Or, for someone who is reluctant to get help:

Do you have someone you trust you can go to?

Do you have a Suicide Safety Plan?

if someone is serious about taking their life, it may help them to talk this through, it wont put the idea in their head and this does fit in with Safetalk/ASIST approaches.

If you’re worried that someone is at immediate risk of taking their own life then phone 999, you should stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

 If no immediate risk take the following steps:

Encourage them to ring:

Samaritans - (All age groups)

Tel: 116 123, open 24 hours a day.

Papyrus - (Young people)

Tel: 0800 068 41 41

Text: 07786209697

Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org

Opening hours
Mon-Fri: 10am-10pm, weekends: 2pm-10pm & bank holidays: 2pm-5pm

Other options include:

  • contact their GP for an emergency appointment or call the out of hours service.
  • call their Mental Health worker, if they have one.
  • call their social worker or key worker, if they have one 
  • encourage to re-engage with mental health services if already engaged
  • go through their Safety Plan with them

If they don’t want help, don’t push them. Sometimes it’s easy to want to try and fix a person’s problems, or give them advice but try and at least leave a couple of key telephone numbers with them for Samaritans any local support numbers for their area (Crisis teams etc).

It’s usually better for people to make their own decisions. Help them think of all the options, but leave the choice to them.

A person may not be suicidal but you may still be concerned

Encourage them to contact their GP, they will be familiar with their medical history and will be able to direct them appropriately which may include a referral to the Primary Care IAPT (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies).  IAPT team are skilled in helping people 18 years old and older overcome emotional and mental difficulties like:

• Depression.
• Stress
• Anxiety
• Sleep problems
• Confidence and self-esteem problems

All the local IAPT services are listed under the 'Mental Health' section of MECC Link and can be found within the 'local support and contact details' section. 

 

SELF CARE

  • Mind 'The charity for better mental health' has an extensive range of self help resources available
  • The NHS have has a range of self-help tools available
  • Andy's Man Club provides a weekly talking group, a place for men to come together in a safe environment to talk about issues/problems they be have faced or currently been facing.  Meeting take place every Monday @ 7pm at the Shay Stadium in Halifax, email: info@andysmanclub.co.uk for further information.
  • A range of self-help techniques is available on the MindWell Leeds website, these include:
    • Stress
    • Anxiety 
    • Depression
    • Sleep
    • Self Harm
    • Having a baby

Samaritans Barnsley Branch

Contact Tel:

(01226) 202222 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-barnsley

Other Info:

In an emergency or if someone is in immediate risk of serious harm or injury contact the emergency services. Telephone 999.

Barnsley Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

77 Pitt Street West
Barnsley
South Yorkshire
S70 1BN

Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Monday..........10:30 - 12:30
Tuesday..........Closed
Wednesday....12:30 - 15:00
Thursday........Closed
Friday.............12:30 - 15:00
Saturday.........Closed
Sunday...........Closed

Bradford Samaritans Branch

Contact Tel:

01274 547547 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/bradford-samaritans

Other Info:

In an emergency or if someone is in immediate risk of serious harm or injury contact the emergency services. Telephone 999.

Bradford Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org 
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

6 Mornington Villas
Manningham
Bradford
West Yorkshire
BD8 7HB
Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
11.00am - 10:00pm

Calderdale Samaritans branch

Contact Tel:

01422 349349 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-halifax-and-calderdale

Other Info:

In an emergency or if someone is in immediate risk of serious harm or injury contact the emergency services. Telephone 999.

Calderdale Samaritans 

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

29 Harrison Road
Halifax
West Yorkshire
HX1 2AF
Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Monday - Thursday 10am - 10pm
Friday 4pm-10pm
Saturday 2pm-5pm

 

Samaritans Doncaster Branch

Contact Tel:

01302 327474 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/doncaster-samaritans

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Doncaster Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

36 Thorne Road
Doncaster
South Yorkshire
DN1 2JA


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Phone for details

 

Bridlington and District

Contact Tel:

01262 400400 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-bridlington-and-district

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Bridlington and District Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org 
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

2 Saint Marys Walk
Bridlington
YO16 7LG


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Monday : 7.30pm 9.30.pm
Friday: 7.30pm 9.30.pm
Saturday: 4.30pm 9.30.pm
Sunday : 4.30pm 9.30.pm

Mental Health Response Service – Adult and Older People

Tel: For individuals in crisis: 01482 301701 (24hrs/7 days a week)

Samaritans Hull Branch

Contact Tel:

01482 323456 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/hull-samaritans

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

 

Hull Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

75 Spring Bank
Hull
HU3 1AG


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Mon/Tue/Wed: 8am-noon and 7-9pm
Thu/Fri: 7-9pm
Sat/Sun: 8am-noon

Mental Health Response Service – Adult and Older People

Tel: For individuals in crisis: 01482 301701 (24hrs/7 days a week)

Samaritans Huddersfield

Contact Tel:

01484 533388 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/huddersfield-samaritans

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved

Huddersfield Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org 
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

14 New North Parade
Huddersfield
West Yorkshire
HD1 5JP
Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:

Monday 10:00 - 14:00, 18:30 - 22:00
Tuesday 18:30 - 22:00
Wednesday 07:30 - 14:00, 18:30 - 22:00
Thursday 10:00 - 14:00, 18:30 - 22:00
Friday 07:30 - 10:00, 18:30-22:00
Saturday: 18:30 - 22:00
Sunday 10:00 - 22:00

Samaritans Leeds Branch

Contact Tel:

0113 245 6789 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-leeds

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Mindwell Leeds (Adults)

See 'Mental Wellbeing' Tab for full details.

MindWell Leeds has a specific page called 'I need help now'. Click the green link for more information

Website: https://www.mindwell-leeds.org.uk/

Leeds Crisis Assessment Service

Contact Tel: 0300 300 1485 (local-rate charges, Open 24 hours every day)

The Leeds Crisis Assessment Service (CAS) is a city-wide mental health service for people 18 years and over

Download the 'Leeds Crisis Card' pictorial notice board of all the services available in Leeds

MindMate (Children and Young People)

If you’re a young person, MindMate can help you understand the way you’re feeling and find the right advice and support

MindMate has a ‘thinking about suicide?’ section: https://www.mindmate.org.uk/im-a-young-person/coping-with-common-issues/thinking-of-suicide-need-urgent-help/

Samaritans Leeds

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org 
(UK and ROI)

Visit our branch:

93 Clarendon Road
Leeds
West Yorkshire
LS2 9LY


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
9:00am to 9:00pm

Samaritans of Cleethorpes, Grimbsy and District

Contact Tel:

01472 353111 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-grimsby-cleethorpes-and-district

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Samaritans of Cleethorpes, Grimsby and District

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org 
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

55 Alexandra Road
Grimsby
North East Lincs
DN31 1RD


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Please phone the branch beforehand to arrange a visit:
Monday - 1.00pm - 9.30pm
Wednesday - 7.00pm - 9.30pm
Thursday - 7.00pm - 9.30pm
Friday - 7.00pm - 9.30pm

Samaritans Scunthorpe

Contact Tel:

01724 860 000 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/scunthorpe-samaritans

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Samaritans Scunthorpe

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

Lyndum House
2 Lindum Street
Scunthorpe
North Lincolnshire
DN15 6QU


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
You can call in to talk to a trained volunteer whenever our visitors door is open. Ring the doorbell and we will answer asap:

Monday - 1.30pm - 4.00pm and 7.30pm - 10.00pm
Tuesday - 1.30pm - 10.00pm
Wednesday - 1.30pm - 10.00pm
Thursday - 7.30pm - 10.00pm
Friday - 1.30pm - 4.00pm and 7.30pm - 10.00pm
Sunday - 1.30pm - 4.00pm

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved

Samaritans Northallerton

01609 776161 (local call charges apply)
National telephone:
116 123 (this number is free to call)

7 Crosby Road
Northallerton
North Yorkshire
DL6 1AA

Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday
9:00am - 12:00 noon and 6:30 - 8:30 pm

Samaritans Harrogate and District

116 123 (this number is free to call)

5 Mount Parade
Harrogate
North Yorkshire
HG1 1BX


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
8:00am - 10:00pm

Samaritans Scarborough

01723 36 88 88 (local call charges apply)
National telephone:
116 123 (this number is free to call)

Samaritans House
40 Trafalgar Street West
Scarborough
North Yorkshire
YO12 7AS


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Monday: 12:00 pm to 2:00 pm & 6:00 pm to 10:00 pm
Tuesday: 6:00 pm to 10:00 pm
Wednesday: 8:00 pm to 10:00 pm

Thursday: 6:00 pm to 10:00 pm
Friday: 8:00 pm to 10:00 pm
Sunday : 2:00 pm to 6:00 pm

Samaritans Rotherham

Contact Tel:

01709 36 17 17 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-rotherham

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved

Samaritans Rotherham

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

22 Percy Street
Rotherham
South Yorkshire
S65 1ED


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
Monday: 11.30am - 9pm
Tuesday: 3pm - 9pm
Wednesday: 11.30am- 3pm
Thursday: 3pm - 9pm
Sunday: 5pm - 9pm

Samaritans Sheffield

Contact Tel:

0114 276 7277 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/sheffield-samaritans

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Samaritans Sheffield

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

272 Queens Road
Sheffield
South Yorkshire
S2 4DL


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
10:00am - 10:00pm

 

Samaritans Wakefield and District

Contact Tel:

01924 377 011 (local call charges apply)

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/samaritans-wakefield-and-district

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved.

Samaritans Wakefield

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

37-39a Charlotte Street
Wakefield
West Yorkshire
WF1 1UL


Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:
8:00am - 10:00pm

Samaritans

Contact Tel:

116 123

Email:

jo@samaritans.org

Website:

https://www.samaritans.org/branches/york-samaritans

Other Info:

If you become aware that someone has suicidal thoughts and is about to act on them contact the emergency services. Telephone 999. Stay with that person until help arrives. Do not put your own safety at risk by getting physically involved

York Samaritans

116 123 (this number is free to call)

Email Samaritans: jo@samaritans.org
(UK and ROI)
Visit our branch:

Samaritans York
89 Nunnery Lane
York
North Yorkshire
YO23 1AH

Usual hours open to receive callers at the door:

Mon 10am to 10pm
Tues 10am to 10pm
Wed 10am to 10pm
Thur Closed
Fri 10am to 10pm
Sat 10am to 2pm & 6pm to 10pm
Sun 10am to 2pm & 6pm to 10pm