Social Isolation and Loneliness
Loneliness is also a common emotion and it is likely that, at some point in our lives and whatever our age, we will experience it. Various studies estimating the levels of loneliness in Great Britain show that 5 – 16% of people aged 65 or over report feeling lonely all or most of the time and up to a further 30% say they feel lonely “sometimes”. Loneliness and social isolation are harmful to our health: research shows that lacking social connections is as damaging to our health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day (Holt-Lunstad, 2015).
Risk factors that increase the likelihood of someone experiencing loneliness. These included living in rural environments with poor transport connections, having a lack of family nearby, having a caring responsibility, living on a low income, bereavement, poor mobility, losing hearing and/or sight, and having certain long-term conditions (such as dementia), as well as a range of other possible characteristics, situations, or experiences. Sometimes, a person experiences multiple risk factors simultaneously.
Source – Campaign to End Loneliness
Very Brief Intervention
Ask
What do you like to do with your time?
What hobbies or interests do you have?
How often would you say you do your hobbies or social activities?
How do you feel about how you spend your time?
How would you describe your network of friends and family?
Which friends or family members could you turn to for support if you needed it?
Would you rather spend your time?
- On your own?
- With family?
- With friends?
Would you say that your relationships are as you would want them to be?
- Facilitate a conversation about loneliness, using the skills and qualities of empathy, openness, warmth and respect, and help people to understand their own circumstances and plan their own solutions.
- Allow the person to tell their story, to review their loneliness and what is happening now.
Assist
How would you like things to be?
What would you like to be doing differently, and how would you feel about that?
What would make a difference to you?’
Are there people who model what you would like to be doing/how you would like it to be?
What needs to happen for (the change) to take place?
What do you think stops you from making that change?
Act
Self Care
Although most people need some kind of social contact to maintain good mental health, everyone has different social needs. The person may be someone who is content with a few close friends, or they may need a large group of varied acquaintances to feel satisfied.
State that the simplest way to ease feelings of loneliness can be to try to meet more, or different, people.
- Can they think of anything they are interested in, a class or a group they have heard of, that could help connect them with new people? See Useful contacts for ideas of how to find groups. The Red Cross Connecting Communities team can help you connect with your local community and meet new friends.
- Volunteering is a good way of meeting people. Helping others can also really help improve mental health. See Mind's Useful contacts - Mind for organisations that can help someone find local volunteering opportunities.
- Join an online community. See Mind's Useful contacts - Mind for some suggestions.
The Coronavirus (Covid-19) and Loneliness, What can you do to support people in your local community?
It is particularly important for people who
- are 70 or over
- have a long-term condition
- are pregnant
- have a weakened immune system
People in these groups have been asked to apply social distancing, you can support people who are doing this by asking if you could:
Help your neighbours - #viralkindness contact card
Facebook groups
Covid Mutual Aid UK is a group of volunteers supporting local community groups organising mutual aid
Website: https://covidmutualaid.org/
Loneliness in Older People
- The Silver Line is the only free confidential helpline providing information, friendship and advice to older people, open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. Call 0800 470 8090. The Silver Line can also put you in contact with community activities in your local area
- Age UK has a befriending service to support loneliness in later life, this is where a volunteer visits an older person once a week in their own home. There is also telephone befriending Telephone befriending, where a volunteer befriender will phone an older person.
- https://www.reengage.org.uk/ Re-engage works with people aged 75 and over who live alone; those who are especially vulnerable to loneliness. Call our freephone number 0800 716 543 Email info@reengage.org.uk
- NHS Choices has a range of advice on Loneliness including volunteering, continuing education and how to engage with social media and computers.
Loneliness in Younger People
- It is recognised that loneliness is not something that is exclusive to older adult, indeed many younger adults in particular can experience loneliness and a recent report from the Office for National Statistics highlighted Britain as the loneliness capital of Europe.
- Whilst on the outside young people can be very well connected on social media, if this replaces face-to-face contact then it can add to a feeling of loneliness. Some people also present an idealised version of themselves online and we expect to have social lives like those portrayed in the media.
- Helplines can reduce loneliness, at least in the short term
- The Samaritans are available around the clock, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. This number is FREE to call on 116 123
- Young Minds offers advice for young people to help them look after their mental health. They also have a free 24/7 textline service. YoungMinds | Mental Health Charity For Children And Young People | YoungMinds
- There are also support services on websites such as Mind's that can remind you you're not alone.
- It doesn’t really matter who you talk to first. Some ideas would include: a friend, family member, anonymous listening service like Nightline or the Samaritans, student union welfare rep, personal tutor, students support services staff member, counsellor, or doctor. Decide who is the best person for you to talk to first. Be realistic about what each person can offer. If it doesn’t work out, try someone else. Talk to more than one person.
Local Support and Contact Details
Age UK Bedfordshire - Telephone Befriending Service
This service is aimed to help older people aged 50 or over, living in Bedfordshire. Our team make contact with the client over the phone to arrange a time and day convenient to the client to call.
We try and keep a regular service providing a friendly voice over the phone to chat and share any concerns with. We take referrals from professionals, concerned others and self referrals. The aim of this service is to tackle loneliness and show there is someone out there who cares, we will always have a friendly ear, and talk through any worries.
Website: https://www.ageuk.org.uk/bedfordshire/our-services/telephone-befriending/
Telephone: 01234 360510
Email: enquiries@ageukbedfordshire.org.uk
Independent Age
All of us can feel lonely or isolated from time to time, whether we live alone or with others. Loneliness is the feeling of sadness that comes from not having as much company or the type of company that you would like, and it affects everyone differently. If you're feeling lonely there are things you can do to help yourself and places you can look for support.
Website: Loneliness | Independent Age
Telephone: 0800 319 6789
Age UK Bedfordshire - Telephone Befriending Service
This service is aimed to help older people aged 50 or over, living in Bedfordshire. Our team make contact with the client over the phone to arrange a time and day convenient to the client to call.
We try and keep a regular service providing a friendly voice over the phone to chat and share any concerns with. We take referrals from professionals, concerned others and self referrals. The aim of this service is to tackle loneliness and show there is someone out there who cares, we will always have a friendly ear, and talk through any worries.
Website: https://www.ageuk.org.uk/bedfordshire/our-services/telephone-befriending/
Telephone: 01234 360510
Email: enquiries@ageukbedfordshire.org.uk
Independent Age
All of us can feel lonely or isolated from time to time, whether we live alone or with others. Loneliness is the feeling of sadness that comes from not having as much company or the type of company that you would like, and it affects everyone differently. If you're feeling lonely there are things you can do to help yourself and places you can look for support.
Website: Loneliness | Independent Age
Telephone: 0800 319 6789
Essex Wellbeing Service
The Essex Wellbeing Service can provide an assessment of your needs and connect you to the most appropriate help and support. This might be from a wellbeing coach, befriending coordinator, community agent or through its volunteering programme.
Website: Essex Wellbeing Service
Telephone: 0300 303 9988
United in Kind
United in Kind is a social movement inspiring people to be kind and support each other. Together with hundreds of community, charity and voluntary groups around Essex, we're building an online community of kindness.
Website: United in Kind – Working together to make Essex the kindest county in England
Herts Help
Contact Herts Help, an independent advice service that can help you find the right club or group for you.
Get out & About
- Visit Herts
Discover exciting attractions for all ages and interests on the county's official tourism website. - Age UK Hertfordshire
A calendar of weekly activities and special events run by Age UK. - Volunteering
A great way to meet new people.
Socialise at Home
- Age UK - Befriending Service
Talk to a befriending volunteer in your home or over the phone. Age UK try to match people with similar interests. - Age UK - In Touch
If you're worried about burdening friends and family, call this emotional support line to talk about whatever is weighing on you. - Social apps
For your smartphone or tablet.
Age Concern Luton
Age Concern Luton has been helping older people improve their overall quality of life, receive timely practical help, get out and about and retain dignity in later life for nearly 20 years.
Age Concern Luton currently run a number of lunch clubs where members can get a freshly cooked hot meal and the opportunity to sit, talk and play games with other people.
They were also one of the first organisations in Britain to develop a befriending scheme where volunteer visitors (normally retired people) pop in for a chat and a cuppa with lonely older people.
Website: http://www.ageconcernluton.org.uk/
Telephone: 01582 456812
Email: admin@ageconcernluton.org.uk
Total Wellbeing Luton - Social Prescription
Loneliness and isolation can be as damaging to your health as cigarette smoking and can lead to a decline in health – which increases the risk of developing long-term conditions.
Social prescription helps people to live well by connecting them with activities and people in their local communities.
Website: www.totalwellbeingluton.org/social-prescription.html
Telephone: 0300 555 4152
Email: info@totalwellbeingluton.org
Age UK Bedfordshire - Telephone Befriending Service
This service is aimed to help older people aged 50 or over, living in Bedfordshire. The team make contact with the client over the phone to arrange a time and day convenient to the client to call.
They try and keep a regular service providing a friendly voice over the phone to chat and share any concerns with. The team take referrals from professionals, concerned others and self referrals. The aim of this service is to tackle loneliness and show there is someone out there who cares, we will always have a friendly ear, and talk through any worries.
Website: https://www.ageuk.org.uk/bedfordshire/our-services/telephone-befriending/
Telephone: 01234 360510
Age UK Milton Keynes - Telephone Befriending Service
This service is aimed to help older people aged 50 or over, living in Bedfordshire. Our team make contact with the client over the phone to arrange a time and day convenient for the client to call.
We try to keep a regular service by providing a friendly voice over the phone to chat and share any concerns. We take referrals from professionals, concerned others, and self-referrals. The aim of this service is to tackle loneliness and show there is someone out there who cares, we will always have a friendly ear, and talk through any worries.
Website: https://www.ageuk.org.uk/miltonkeynes/
Telephone: 01908 550700
Email: info@ageukmiltonkeynes.org.uk
Independent Age
All of us can feel lonely or isolated from time to time, whether we live alone or with others. Loneliness is the feeling of sadness that comes from not having as much company or the type of company that you would like, and it affects everyone differently. If you're feeling lonely, there are things you can do to help yourself and places you can look for support.
Telephone: 0800 319 6789
Emmaus
Our ambition is to introduce to Suffolk new ways of tackling entrenched homelessness, isolation and unemployment. We do this by enabling and empowering people to help themselves through meaningful activity that will benefit both themselves and others.
Website: Emmaus - Homelessness Charity
Email: hello@emmaussuffolk.org.uk
Telephone: 01473 225 627
Access Community Trust
We support people who may be homeless, vulnerable and suffering from social exclusion. We believe that everyone, irrespective of their background and circumstance, is entitled to live in a decent home, enjoy positive and rewarding relationships with others, engage in meaningful activities and achieve their maximum potential. We work with hundreds of vulnerable and disadvantaged clients in our communities, providing supported housing units, information advice and guidance services, drop-in centres, education and training facilities that include working with schools and youth-led projects including minority groups such as the LGBT+ community. Access CT also offers an employment mentoring recruitment service and a dual diagnosis mental health service, alongside a growing number of social enterprise cafes throughout Suffolk and Norfolk.
Website: Home - Access Community Trust (accessct.org)
Email:admin@accessct.org
Telephone: 01502 527200
LOCAL INFORMATION
There are a number of options available in your local area which can help connect communities together and reduce isolation. These include:
- Community Hubs – there are seven of these across Thurrock. Details are on the Council website: Supporting local people | Community hubs and community centres | Thurrock Council
- Friends of Parks groups - Park friends groups | Get involved in your community | Thurrock Council
- Local Area Coordinators - based in towns and villages across Thurrock, they help vulnerable people find ways to make a better life Overview | Local area coordinators - help in the community | Thurrock Council
- Stronger Together Thurrock - this website includes a directory of support which offers information and ideas on how you can get more involved in your community. Stronger Together Thurrock – Thurrock is Stronger Together